In firefighting, a backdraft occurs when a fire, deprived of oxygen, suddenly receives a fresh supply of air, causing an explosive reaction. A similar phenomenon can happen when practicing self-compassion. For someone who has been steeped in self-criticism and feelings of worthlessness, the introduction of…
According to Paul Gilbert, author of The Compassionate Mind and developer of Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT), there are three interacting emotional regulation systems that have evolved over time. These systems help explain why we easily fall into the trap of self-criticism and highlight the importance of…
Is there a difference between self-esteem and self-compassion? There sure is, and it is an important distinction to make. Self-esteem is a measure of our sense of worthiness, often based on how competent we believe we are in the areas we value. It can be…
In modern society, attributes such as strength, drive, and success are highly valued. While compassion is often seen as a virtue when directed toward others, it is frequently regarded as a less desirable soft skill. Moreover, the idea of extending compassion to oneself is often…
Reparenting is an empowering process that involves taking responsibility for meeting your own needs, especially those unmet during childhood. It’s about delving deeply into self-awareness, identifying your true desires and necessities, and prioritizing your well-being. Rather than waiting for someone else to care for you…
To quickly review the past couple weeks, reparenting is a method for nurturing our self-connection. It entails quieting the inner critic and embracing oneself with both respect and compassion. By prioritizing our own needs, we come to understand that the relationship we hold with ourselves…